Stop wishing for change to happen

Mar 18, 2021

 by Karina Wait

How many times have you looked at photos of others and wished you could be them? Or, are you guilty of others who are more successful than you and telling yourself that you'll never be like them? Do you talk a big talk about things you'll accomplish but never actually meet them? 

News flash: you're not going to get to your goals wishing for them. 

Wishing for things to happen in life is comparable to wishing for money to fall from the sky. You may desire for things to happen but the universe probably won't make it so. The reasoning behind this is because the universe doesn't believe you ACTUALLY want these things to happen.

Wishes don't manifest into reality. 

So, it may feel like the universe is ignoring you but, the universe is always listening. You just need to change the way you approach your goals. Instead of wishing for things, saying "I want...." will make the universe listen. Furthermore, wanting something to happen will provide you with more ambition and drive. 

Once you've established your want for a goal, it's time to make it happen. This is where the ambitious stand apart from the lazy because those who achieve their desires create concrete steps in order for the goal to become reality. 

The first way is to now transition from saying "I want.." to "I choose...". With the later phrase, you would then add supporting words that make the goal realistic and provide a timeline of achievement. When finalizing your deadline, you'll want to make certain that the goal can be met in the given timeframe and isn't obnoxiously crazy. For example, a realistic goal may be "I choose to lose 50 pounds within the next 6-7 months" which is very much possible but saying "I choose to lose 50 pounds in 2 months" probably won't happen. 

Once the deadline is set, you will need to design a plan. This plan can have as many or as few steps as you'd like. But creating actionable steps will help your progress because it paves the way for manifestation. Try to be strategic with your steps to allow yourself the highest probability of success. You could set multiple yearly and quarterly goals; whatever works. 

Finally, looking at those around you is important. Jim Rohn, a motivational speaker once said, 

"You're the average of the five people you spend the most time with." 

So, surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals will help make your journey easier. You can ask those you trust to hold yourself accountable and ask them for guidance. If you spend time with people who don't have the healthiest habits and your goal is weight loss, things may get iffy. As you desire one thing, they desire another. So, make sure to put energy into formulating your circle, and don't be afraid to say no. 

To summarize, 

  1. If you don't have a plan and a deadline to supplement your goal, it's still a wish. 
  2. Using words that will make the universe listen will transition the wish to a goal. 
  3. Your goal must be showing signs of progress otherwise it'll stay a wish. 
  4. Surrounding yourself with those who support your goal will help 

You are the common denominator between where you currently are and where you want to be. 

Take heed of those words, hold them close, and live by them.